What Benefit Does A Man Receive From "LOVE?"

By Sean T. Alexandre

This is something I've been thinking heavily about for a few years now. Even as a child, the whole idea of love just never sat well with me. The thought I'm pondering is something I've been trying to find an answer to since again, childhood. The thought is: What benefit does a man receive from love in American society?
It seems to me that the whole love thing is setup to benefit only women. Think about it: A man is the one who's told that he has to court the woman (in other words, he has to chase the woman), even if its her who's interested in him and not the other way around. During this chase, the woman is likely to play games and send the guy running in circles. A man is also told that he's supposed to be successful in life, not for himself, but to one day take care of a woman. A man is told that after the woman has him jump through hoops a.k.a "courting," he's supposed to support her financially. Then the man is told to marry the woman, making their relationship legally binding. If things don't work out, the woman is rewarded half of the man's assets plus spousal support... predicated upon whether or not a prenuptial agreement was signed. Even if there was a prenuptial agreement is signed, the law is so much in favor of women that they will find loopholes around that.

With all of that said, again, what benefit does a man receive from this love thing in American society? I want you women who may be reading this to ask yourselves this seriously. The reason I'm posing this question to you society, especially women is because a lot of them are wondering why they're single and having a difficult time changing that. it's because men are now catching on to the American style of "love." Its setup only to benefit the woman. From birth, a man is pretty much told that his sole purpose for being on earth is to cater to women. A man has to be damn near Superman to please a woman in today's society and that's why so many men today have emotional and mental issues... because of the unrealistic burden placed upon men. But society doesn't want to talk about that.

At the same time, women aren't being taught to earn the things they seek. Instead, they're being taught that they're entitled to the utmost respect and the finer things in life by way of a man providing them just because they're a woman. Other men have caught on. Personally, I've dropped out of dating, relationships... etc. I want nothing to do with it because I don't get any benefit from it. Besides, as Gordon Gekko so eloquently stated in the movie Wall Street: "We are smart enough not to buy in to the oldest myth running; love. Fiction created by people to keep them from jumping out of windows. "

Some of you may be wondering, "If you've dropped out of dating/relationships, what about family?" That's simple. Marrying for love is a westernized idea. In other nations, people marry as sort of a business arrangement. Both parties bring something to the table (usually both families are well off or both people benefit mutually), they come together in order to have a family. Nothing more. Why do you think a guy like Jay-Z marries Beyonce? Or a guy like Will Smith marries Jada Pinkett? There are average everyday women prettier than both Jada and Beyonce. But its not about that or love, its about those two couples combining assets (which Beyonce and Jada has and the average woman don't) and raising a family... a business deal. That part of society knows what everyday society doesn't, which is... marrying for love is a fool's game. Marrying for love is why the American divorce rates are so dismal. Marrying for love is just not natural, especially when there's only one party receiving all the benefits... the women.

There is an exception to the rule, of course. I've encountered many married couples who have been marries for longer than I've been alive. Some of you think they married for love, but not entirely. During those times, a woman had something to bring to the table that the man couldn't bring and vice versa, and they got together and started families. Under that agreement, their marriages flourished for decades upon decades.

I know some of you aren't going to want to hear this because as a woman, you receive all the benefits of love as we know it. But that idea of love is why you're single. How much love can there really be if only one person is receiving all the benefits of that relationship? Don't believe me? For starters, stop your average woman and ask her what she desires in a man and I can almost guarantee you that she will have a bunch of outrageous demands, but she won't be able to offer even one-tenth of the things she's asking for.

That's my take on love in America. My view is brutal, its unorthodox, but you can't deny that that's how things are...
Sean T. Alexandre is an experienced investor, entrepreneur, research and writer for First Point Capital, LLC, a company formed to serve the needs of up and coming entrepreneurs, investors, and scholars who wish to reach opulent goals and stay consciously afloat in these fast changing times.