Knowing What Is Normal in a Relationship

By Zandra R Moore

What is a normal relationship? Well, in order to determine that we have to know what an abnormal relationship is. For the sake of this article, let's say that an abnormal relationship is an unhealthy partnership. An unhealthy partnership is a union where one or both of the parties are miserable, disrespected, and even abused. Bad relationships are leading causes of low self-esteem in a lot of people.

We want to be in relationships because they offer the security of having someone you can trust, who'll respect you, and who'll take care of you as long as the love is there. People have be trained to think that you have to stay in a relationship no matter what harm it may do to you, because you're supposed to fight for your love. This belief has caused a lot of people to spend years in miserable and abusive situations. The reason for this is simply due to the fact that most people don't know what a healthy relationship is.

A healthy relationship is a partnership with someone where they're being considerate, caring, understanding, and willing to let you be the person you are. They're not trying to change you, or punish you for being who you are. They respect and love every aspect of your being, and they appreciate those things about you. A healthy relationship is one where both parties reciprocate the love that they're being given. They cherish it and do whatever they can to preserve it.
An abnormal relationship is the complete opposite. Abnormal partnerships are most times unbalance. You'll have one person in the relationship who's calling all the shots. They may control all the finances, make the majority of the choices, and don't even give the slightest consideration to their partners thoughts or feelings. It can be quite easy for these types of relationships to become abusive.

Abnormal relationships are about focusing on a person's flaws. The attention is placed on the things that make the person feel bad about him or herself. They're very unsupportive, disrespectful, and inconsiderate of the other partner's needs and wants. An unhealthy relationship increases the sadness, misery, and pain that one of the mates may feel. This negativity leads to many problems in that relationship such as constant arguing, cheating, and abuse.

A normal relationship is all about being with someone who'll cherish and respect you without focusing attention on your flaws. They'll help with those faults, but they're not going to hold them over your head or use them to dominate the relationship. A healthy relationship is one where both contributors can thrive. They are each other's biggest supporters. A normal relationship is one where you feel happy about who you are and who you're with.
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